“Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. It is far better take things as they come along with patience and equanimity.”
“A full life will be full of pain. The only alternative is not to live fully or not to live at all” (95).
Wisdom from the Road Less Traveled
M. Scott Peck, M.D.
The majority of people do not enjoy pain whether it be mental or physical. We do not seek it out or get pleasure from it. But pain is a part of life. Pain allows us to know that when there’s something wrong. There are temporary escapes: drugs, denial, avoidance, but these things create pain and suffering of their own. Once we stop trying to escape, we are left with the consequences of our actions plus the original pain we were avoiding.
There is no such thing as a “fresh start”. Problems never simply go away; they wind up following us wherever we go. If you wish to eliminate problems, you must confront them. Effort must be put in. Sometimes there are no answers; no solutions, but there are ways to cope and manage.
Accepting and coping with pain allows us to grow. It makes us stronger. We develop new skills and are able to adapt better to future struggles. It gives us hope when we are able to manage our challenges.
It is extremely important for there to be two opposite sides to life: the yin and the yang. Without the darkness, how would we see light? Without pain, how would we recognize joy? The reason most people enjoy rollercoasters is because of the fluctuation between the highs and lows. If there were no variability in life, we would all be quiet bored.
Facing struggles in life is something that everyone experiences. Pain will bring joy, if you utilize it instead of avoiding it. That’s the beauty in pain.